Every registry has a bunch of options for what your newborn will need, but what about us moms?
I’ve been through labor + delivery four times now. With my first baby, I never thought about what I would need for my postpartum healing, which left me in a lot of pain and really overwhelmed. By number two, three, and four, I’ve come up with a list that really made the whole process a lot easier! Less mama struggles means more baby snuggles for you, mama.
The Importance Of Self Care
It’s easy for moms to put their needs on the back burner while learning how to care for their new baby. Every mom has done that at one time or another, but self care should be a priority! To be a great mom, you have to take care of yourself. This is especially true in the first few weeks at home. I remember feeling overwhelmed, hadn’t taken a shower since the hospital, and I was more tired than I had ever been.
I had this crazy idea that I had to do everything all on my own. That I couldn’t ask for help, even though I needed it. I knew I needed a shower, but I didn’t want to put the responsibility of my new baby on anyone else. So many times, I’d cry because I felt like I couldn’t do “my job” But after lots of tears and my husband reassuring me, I started to allow myself to take that break, that I desperately needed. I started to realize to be the best mom, I needed to take care of myself too.
A Moms To-Do List
I’m that mom. The one that cleans my entire house before I go to bed. I wash every dish and sweep my floors. Fold any left over clothes in the dryer, and put them away. When friends and family come over to visit, I like it to be tidy. But I couldn’t keep up anymore. I was burnt out from the night feedings, diaper changes, not eating enough, caring for my older children, and spending time with my husband. My body was trying to heal and I wasn’t getting the rest I needed. I had nothing left in me to give my family at the end of the day. Something had to change.
Let Go + Be Present
As soon as I let go of my unrealistic expectations, I enjoyed being a mom more. Cleaning my house and doing laundry moved to the bottom of my to do list. I spent more time with my kids and my husband, soaking in the early days with them & their new sister. I set a certain amount of time during my day to be alone. Even if it was just ten minutes, those minutes kept me sane, and still do. My feelings of having to be “perfect” finally started fading. Feeding my daughter didn’t seem like such a chore anymore. I realized I didn’t have to do everything, at least not all in one day. Some days I got housework done, some days I didn’t. I made rest a priority. Some days we got take out, others I felt like cooking. Every day was something different at first, and that’s okay. In fact, taking it a day at a time is the best advice I ever received. Don’t make the same mistakes as me mama. Soak up that newborn phase because it really goes by fast, but make sure you find time for you in this new journey. This is new for both of you and you need this time to heal + bond with your new baby.
Everything You Need For Recovery
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Keep in mind that every recovery period is different for every one.
Lots Of Pads & Comfy Panties. At least until the postpartum bleeding eases up. If your hospital or birth center offers those hideous mesh panties and extra thick pads, TAKE THEM! Trust me, you won’t care what you look like! They’re so comfy for this stage.
Padsicles Speaking of pads, I made these for the first few days home. You take maxi pads, aloe vera, and witch hazel, put it on the pads, and freeze! TRUST ME!
Dermaplast Pain Relieving Spray. This stuff is like magic. I used it every day after having my girls. I was very sore, like bruised feeling, and this took it all away!
Peri Bottle I used THIS ONE It made cleaning up a lot less painful and way easier!
A Mama Basket I put a small basket on my nightstand with KIND bars, teddy grahams, water bottles, my favorite candy, nursing pads, a hair tie, etc. Anything you may need in the night, conveniently placed by your side!
OTC Pain Medicine I usually alternate between Tylenol and Advil for postpartum discomfort. Just ask your personal midwife or doctor what would be best for you.
Boppy Pillow I didn’t breastfeed my babes long, but this was so helpful!
Freezer Meals Oh my gosh, freezer meals were a life saver after my babies were born. One less thing to think about during the day, made it so much easier to adjust to newborn life.
Sitz Bath Salt I used Pure Body Naturals. It’s all plant-powered ingredients, so no harmful chemicals! This can also go on your padsicles!
Rest Mama, I know it’s hard to find the time, or to put your sweet baby down, so you can rest physically and mentally, but you need it. You deserve it. Your body has been through a lot. Love yourself enough to get the rest you need. Whether that’s going to the grocery store alone, getting your hair and nails done, or just sitting in your room for ten minutes. Take the time so you can really be present with your babies, not so mentally drained, that you’re counting down the hours to bedtime. You’ll be so happy you did. XOXO, Mama Morse